Love doesn’t have to end because of differences in race. In 2012 interracial marriages in the U.S. are at an all-time high – 4.8 million. The Pew Research Center found 8.4% of current marriages are interracial – up from 3.2% in 1980. Hispanics and Asians remain likeliest to intermarry, but the biggest increase is among blacks. States in the West are likeliest to have mixed marriages – 1 in 5. The South is second likeliest followed by the Northeast and Midwest. Vermont is the state with the least mixed marriages – 4%. By the way, the “in” phrase for intermarrying is “marrying out”.
Love doesn’t have to end in the office. In 2011 CareerBuilder surveyed 7,780 full-time workers who weren’t self-employed and didn’t work for the government. Thirty-eight percent had dated a co-worker. Hospitality and financial service workers were the likeliest to date a colleague – 45%. Transportation and utility workers were the second likeliest – 43%. Twenty-eight percent of workers had dated someone higher up the company ladder and 18% had dated their boss. Although the majority of workers were open about their relationship, 37% kept it a secret. However, for 31% their office relationship led to marriage – otherwise known as overtime without pay.
Love doesn’t have to end when couples are geographically separated. In 2012 more than 3.5 million married couples in the U.S. have “commuter marriages”. Although the growing number has been influenced by relaxing social norms and the prevalence of online dating, the biggest factor is the economy. Nearly 60% of couples who live apart do so because of financial reasons. A 2009 UCLA study found couples who lived apart are likelier to live in urban areas, be better educated and be younger. Happily, however, studies show commuter marriages aren’t likelier to end in divorce. Maybe absence does make the heart grow … farther.
Love doesn’t have to end after marriage. A study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science surveyed 274 married Americans nationwide. On average the respondents were in their mid- to late-40’s and had been married 20 years. Among those who were married at least 10 years, 40% remained “intensely” in love. They had more hugs, kisses and sex. Common interests were important – especially if they were new or challenging. General life happiness was important too. However, neither education level nor money affected long-term love. It seems love can endure in spite of the “age” in marriage.